Food

The Pudding Aisle

My daughter and I had a cooking project last Tuesday. She went through my “make these someday” recipe stack, picked her favorite, and we drove to the store to collect what we needed.

I always end up in the pudding aisle.

I’m a pudding voyeur from way back. Pre-COVID, the butterscotch section alone gave me options — store brand, off-brand, multiple sizes. Now it’s just Jell-O, one size, take it or leave it. I leave the chocolate lovers their big box. I don’t need to understand them.

The cook-or-instant question isn’t really a question. Pudding is not meant to meet cold milk in a bowl and get stirred into submission. It’s meant to dirty a pan. It’s meant to thicken slowly while you stand there wondering if you’ve stirred constantly enough to avoid burning it. There’s a small gamble involved, and I appreciate that in a dessert. If you reach for the instant box, you’ve already answered something about yourself.

My daughter — the one I babysit for — has been known to locate the butterscotch box sitting in my cabinet, waiting for someone with patience and standards. I’ll make it for myself if I have to. But knowing someone thinks me worthy of a cooked product is a better feeling than I probably should admit.

Way back when my wife and I were dating, my future mother-in-law bought me a butterscotch pie. To make me feel welcome, I think. She didn’t bake it herself, which, in retrospect, was the correct level of effort for someone who hadn’t decided about me yet. I didn’t make nearly enough of a fuss over it — being a young man of profound emotional stupidity, I offered the bare minimum of gratitude. I’m making up for it now by gatekeeping the pudding aisle. It’s called growth.

I used to make homemade butterscotch pudding too, in the double-boiler era. Every recipe I look at now just says “saucepan.” If you’re currently content with the pre-made plastic-cupped pudding from the refrigerated aisle, I’m not angry. I’m just disappointed.

Many of my taste preferences have shifted over the decades. The butterscotch ones have not moved an inch. They remain loyal, patient, and occasionally indulged.

And I probably shouldn’t mention this, but my granddaughter tried a small spoonful the other day. The look on her face was familiar. I’m choosing to believe it’s genetic.

Feeding the Ungrateful

The first night with a new hockey player, we made pasta with roasted cherry tomatoes. He had told us beforehand, “I eat everything.” After dinner, he quietly revised that to “everything but tomatoes” — with the look of someone who’d just been served a plate of gravel. Good to know. Lesson learned.

We have been feeding a rotating cast of hockey players, exchange students, and our own four kids long enough to know that the dinner table is not a democracy. It’s a negotiation, and we are usually the ones making concessions.

The extra challenge with hockey boys is their shelf life. One week you’ve learned a kid’s specific enthusiasm for jalapeño sausages, and the next week he’s injured or traded, replaced by someone who eyes a Hebrew National hot dog like it’s a personal insult. Being nimble is the only way to survive. This year, broccoli has been universally accepted. Brussels sprouts with a hot honey glaze were a shocking upset victory. The Hebrew National — gold standard of my youth — has not had a good season.

The safe foods exist for a reason. Grilled burgers, sliders, tater tots, mac and cheese, and pizza that warms up well in the toaster oven. Both the meat-lovers’ and the BBQ chicken versions are improved by bacon, which I consider self-evident.

Speaking of bacon — I call it the Paradox of the Bacon. Bacon on a pizza: consumed without hesitation. That same piece slides off onto the plate: suddenly toxic, fit only for the trash. I don’t know what molecular threshold determines when meat loses its dignity, but it is apparently non-negotiable. The unwritten rule, imported from somewhere I was not consulted, is that wasting food is acceptable provided you were enjoying it moments earlier. That wasn’t taught at my table. But staging an intervention for young men unlikely to change their habits based on my disappointment is not a good use of dinner conversation — especially when they’re already eyeing the door.

The complications stack up fast. My wife picks out mushrooms with the precision of a diamond sorter, so mushrooms get roasted separately now and left to fend for themselves. Tomatoes are a minefield. Meat in the sauce gets carefully excavated like a crime scene. My son’s fiancée has moved us to vegetarian baked beans, whose label cheerfully claims they “Make Burgers and Hot Dogs Even Better” — which feels like a passive-aggressive way to sell beans, but here we are. Seafood options evaporated after a quiet veto years ago. Chicken and pork are cheaper anyway.

And then there is the brisket — the meat that doesn’t care about my feelings. We have invested. It has returned nothing but chewy heartache. The oven is kinder than the smoker, but the oven is already running the sides, and getting everything to the table at the same temperature at the same time is a project I have not solved.

What I’ve learned is that you don’t perfect a recipe for an audience that eats around it. You stick to the reliable choices, you guard the refrigerator’s sovereignty against the slow creep of warmups that age out or multiply, and you remember that the dinner table is really just a place to sit together.

They know this, too. Which is why, when the meal doesn’t land, the move is always the same: “I think I’m going to run out for ice cream.”

You go get your ice cream. I’ll be glad I didn’t double the recipe.

The Sunday Vortex: A Sacred Trust (and a Lot of Bacon)

I ask myself, “Am I really living in Oklahoma?” more often than you’d think. Usually, it’s somewhere between church, junior hockey logistics, and negotiating a meal that works for seven people—one of whom has apparently decided bacon is the enemy. That’s Oklahoma life. The clock runs it, the weather comments on it, and the menu is always up for debate.

The Granddaughter Tax

Sunday mornings start at Bible study and church, where our daughter and son-in-law reliably end up beside us. The real perk, though, comes at the end of the service: a brief, glorious window with our granddaughter. I made some nonsense noises until she reached for me, and I want to be clear—that is a win.

I make no claims to being her favorite person, but I am absolutely certain I am her favorite grandpa. (I’m also her only one, but I’ve learned not to audit the wins. You take them.)

Diplomatic Dining

One phone call with my daughter confirmed the headcount. The plan: bacon pasta. The complication: one vegetarian at the table. Her solution was delivered with the energy of someone explaining gravity to a confused golden retriever: “Pull out some of the pasta before adding the bacon, Dad.” I said, “Of course,” like I’d always known that. I had not always known that. The vortex does things to your brain.

The Wind’s Opinion

I managed to squeeze in my walk before the cooking started—a small miracle. After a mid-90s Saturday, Sunday was manageable, though the Oklahoma wind let me know about it for thirty minutes.

To drown out the gale, I’m working through a women’s mystery on Kindle Unlimited. It’s not my usual lane, but it’s included in the subscription, and it’s kept me out of the WWII concentration-camp romance spiral my wife has apparently completed in its entirety. We all make different choices.

A Word About the Hockey Boys

If you’re not familiar with junior hockey, here’s the short version: we host young athletes—gap-year guys sharpening their skills before college hockey—from late summer through May. They are large, they eat aggressively, and they usually solve our bacon problems by limiting themselves to a pound (It is a lot!), so we just make a little more than that.

This weekend, the “supply chain” was offline. The boys played in Amarillo on Friday and Saturday before trekking down to Odessa. They were mid-trip on the long haul back to OKC today, and while I rooted for them from my living room TV, the scoreboard wasn’t kind. With the boys on the road, I was forced into a rare position: I had to cook bacon that didn’t first have an appointment with breakfast.

The Bacon Manifesto

I cook bacon in the oven now. Parchment paper on the bottom, grease pooling in a shallow golden layer, the result being what I can only describe as perfect floppy bacon—cooked through, never burnt, yielding. Yes, the house doesn’t smell like a diner fire right away, but the taste is entirely there. This is what growth looks like.

Between the bacon, the banana cake my wife had staged for the oven, and the focaccia already doing its thing on the counter, the kitchen was finally catching up to what a Sunday is supposed to feel like.

Why It’s Worth the Chaos

Broccoli roasted, focaccia out, and the bacon supply retired with dignity. We sat around a table that had needed some diplomatic negotiating to populate and celebrated our granddaughter’s latest month-iversary (two days early, but who’s counting?).

We do a lot for the hockey boys, and we’re glad to. But for the family meal, there is something that feels less like an obligation and more like an anchor. The week is loud. The vortex is always spinning. We’re pretty lucky to have this one on our weekly calendar.

Crack Cookies

This is a further explanation of one of the titles included on my “semi-retired” business card. (Oven Overlord)

Our top-secret weapon for a post-dinner win comes in a bucket from Sam’s Club.

It’s a tub of Pillsbury chocolate chip cookie dough so user-friendly that even a “hockey boy” could manage it — provided he could find the kitchen. We choose to ignore the manufacturer’s optimistic suggestion of “76 cookies per tub.” In this house, we measure servings by “emotional necessity,” which usually caps out at about four trays.

The strategy is non-negotiable: the cookie must hold together just long enough to betray you. A one-inch perimeter of stability — just enough integrity to transport the cargo — wrapped around an inner inch of pure gooeyness. Science. Probably.

We recently put the bucket to the test over two meals. The first round was a tactical recovery mission. Dinner had been Hamburger Helper — a fuel-only situation, full stop. The boys inhaled half the cookies before bed. My pride insists they were carbo-loading for the long journey up the stairs. My gut knows better.

My own approach is considerably more refined. I tell myself I’m practicing moderation by using a spatula to surgically extract a center that wasn’t cooling fast enough to disengage from the pan. It’s not gluttony if it’s quality control.

The second half of the tub was reserved for higher stakes. The kids were over for a proper comfort meal — roast beef, mashed potatoes, and actual vegetables. It was the first time we’d all been together in weeks, so the cookies weren’t just dessert. They were bait.

My technique is a humble “scoop and hope.” One of my kids, however, treats cookie dough like a precision engineering project — rolling multiple scoops into one Mega-Ball for maximum gooey-density. I don’t argue with the process. I focus on outcomes. With my wife running point on the inner gooey, the rest of us took a tactical walk to let the oven do its work. We all knew it was a distraction. We went anyway. The cookies would be ready when we got back, and that was enough.

When we got back, the cookies did exactly what they were designed to do. Between the milk and the ice cream, the evening didn’t just end — it lingered.

Babies eventually need baths. Adults eventually need to wind down. But for a few extra minutes, nobody was checking their watch or heading for the door. Turns out three inches of underbaked dough is the only thing fast enough to catch time and slow it down.

Crack cookies or not — it was the highlight of my week.

The Gruenbaum Guarantees

We all spent twenty‑ish years under the same roof, breathing the same air, tripping over the same shoes, and negotiating the same dinner table politics. You’d think that would produce six carbon‑copy humans. It didn’t. What it did produce — according to my second son, who has always had a running comedy routine in his head — is a set of “Gruenbaum Guarantees.” Not rules, not traditions, not even expectations. More like… tendencies. Family traits that show up often enough that you start to think they might be genetic, even though the real culprit is probably twenty years of shared kitchen counters and car rides.

Here are a few of the classics.

Pretty Good Banana Bread

If you’ve met us, you’ve probably eaten our banana bread. Hockey boys, exchange students, neighbors, hairdressers, the folks at Leslie’s who tested my pool water — the bread has fans on four continents, which is more than I can say for some of my luggage.

The recipe calls for six bananas, which means it produces enough loaves to feed a mid‑sized village. When the kids were in school, the ratio was six small loaves to one big one, mostly so teachers could get their cut. And if that ratio happened to give me some rounding flexibility, I didn’t complain.

Bottom line: we make good bread, and we hand it out to people we like. Or people we should like. I don’t always check the list too carefully.

We Are Active

This one starts with me, which feels both accurate and slightly unfair to admit. Work flexibility helped. When the kids were young, walking was something I did with intention — part of the time spent praying for people, moving through the neighborhood with actual purpose. Somewhere along the way I traded that habit for audiobooks at 2x speed. The results are shorter-lived but more immediately satisfying. I’m working on feeling worse about this.

Judy’s path was longer. Early marriage meant aerobics and swimming, then injuries and life made consistency harder to hold onto. She’s building it back now, with retirement on the horizon and a swimming and weightlifting routine that runs four to six times a week. She figured out what I already knew: the time to start is before you need to.

The kids took the general idea and ran with it — sometimes literally. Three of them have finished half marathons or longer. When my daughter ran her full marathon, I walked alongside her for a stretch, then finished the course on foot while she pulled ahead at a jog. I stayed well clear of the official finish line. Found her eventually, along with Judy, her husband, and a small crowd of people who had done the harder version of what I’d done. My youngest has entered powerlifting competitions. My son and his fiancé have built their life around walking and yoga.

For the ones where the activity level is harder to gauge, I take comfort in the dogs. Two of my kids have them — my oldest has two in the house — and dogs, whatever else they do, require daily walking. I’ll count it.

We Read

My wife sticks to her genre lane but is rarely without a book on the nightstand. My oldest son doesn’t always have one going, but when he does, the pages smoke. And a perfectly normal question when we all get together is “what are you reading?” or “any recommendations?” — asked with the same casual expectation as asking about the weather.

The Gruenbaums are readers. It snuck up on us, but here we are.

We Clean Our Plates

This one took time. Not every kid arrived at the table as an enthusiastic eater — the crockpot and mashed potatoes were traded for the oven and a near nightly pan of roasted veggies. Adulthood expands the palate. The ratio of protein to greens on our plates isn’t what it used to be, and honestly, that’s fine.

These days there’s almost nothing they won’t eat. My wife might actually be the pickiest one of the bunch, which she would contest on principle.(Her list of “won’t eat foods” is definitely the longest.)

A vegetarian is marrying into the family soon. She is fully welcome. She is also fully expected to clean her plate — though given that she uses more hot sauce in a single meal than the rest of us do in a whole year, I’m not particularly worried about her appetite. The girl commits.

My standard remains: clean plate, and if there’s bread nearby, use it to mop up the juices until the plate is almost clean enough to put back in the cabinet. Almost.

We Are Planning, Going On, or Dreaming About a Vacation

This one is universal. We may not travel every year — pandemics have opinions — but someone in the family is always in research mode. I like a cruise ship with daily excursions. Others prefer hiking destinations that require actual exertion, which I respect in theory.

My wife has planned two land‑based trips to Alaska that never made it out of the planning phase. We did eventually cruise there, so I count that as a win. She does not.

Our youngest is in Portugal right now. Another is in the “let’s give my parents some grandkids” phase, already dreaming of the day travel becomes possible again — ideally with parental support. My son and his fiancée are planning a trip to India after the wedding. And another son is a camper who still jumps at a big trip when the calendar cooperates.

If we’re not packing, we’re planning. If we’re not planning, we’re researching. It’s a cycle. We’ve made peace with it.

At 30,000 feet, we look pretty similar. Even at 10,000 feet, you can still see the family resemblance. But zoom in close enough — the reading choices, the preferred adventures, the way each kid approaches a problem — and the differences show up fast.

I wouldn’t want cookie-cutter kids. And they would revolt if anyone told them they’re just like their dad.

They’re not wrong to revolt. But they’re not entirely right, either.

When we gather, we don’t compare step counts or race times. We talk about books. We talk about travel. And there’s usually banana bread on the counter, waiting for the moment someone decides they have just enough room left for a slice.

Maybe it’s DNA. Maybe it’s twenty years of modeling, nagging, and hoping certain things would stick.

Either way — similar enough to recognize, different enough to keep things interesting.

Sonic Indulgence: A Saga of Tea, Thrift, and Southern Syrup

Since moving South fifteen years ago, my iced tea consumption has gone from “occasional treat” to “questionable daily habit.” The problem is, down here “iced tea” usually means something closer to liquid candy – a tooth-rotting confection so aggressively sweet it makes a dessert menu look restrained. I have nothing against sugar. I have everything against ambush.

When I visit neighbors, and they offer tea, my first question is always about the sugar content. If the answer is “It’s sweet,” I politely pivot to water. You can always add sugar to a drink, but you can’t exactly perform an extraction once it’s in there. I have standards, and “liquid candy” doesn’t meet them.

The Evolution of the Brew

My relationship with tea has gone through several distinct incarnations over the last three decades.

The Heirloom Era:
We received a tea maker as a wedding gift over 30 years ago. After a brief mishap involving a hot stove burner, the smell of melting plastic, and some emergency electrical tape, we replaced it with a duplicate model that served us faithfully until last Christmas.

The QT Discovery:
When we moved to DFW, QuikTrip became my morning ritual after school drop‑offs. For under $1.50, I could custom‑blend my own Black Mango tea—mixing the sweet and unsweetened versions to get it just right. It was a glorious age of autonomy, right up until they dared to raise the price by a quarter. I’m a man of principle; I refused to be a slave to their financial whims over twenty‑five cents.

The Sonic Obsession:
Just before the world turned upside down in 2020, my wife started working from home. To justify picking up her daily Coke Zero, I began ordering a Route 44 unsweet tea with a squirt of blackberry (purely for balance, of course). It was the perfect middle ground—flavorful, but not excessive, and comically oversized enough to last the day.

The Art of the Deal (and the App)

As with all good things, the Sonic Era eventually got tangled in corporate fine print. First, there was the 2–4 PM Happy Hour. Then it became “Use the app for half‑price.” Now it’s a convoluted dance of tapping through a digital cart and hunting for the one coupon that actually works.

While my wife remains loyal to her Coke Zero, I’ve taken a tactical step back to protect my hard‑won reputation as the family miser.

Practice What You Preach

To appear properly frugal (and to further manage my sugar intake), I’ve developed a new system: The 50/50 Split. I mix half of a Sonic tea with a batch of homemade tea. It cuts the sweetness, it cuts the cost in half, and it provides daily evidence that I am practicing the thriftiness I preach to my kids and grandkids—right down to doing light kitchen chemistry to save roughly a dollar a day.

The Verdict

I’m not addicted to the habit; I’m committed to the principle. And if that commitment lets me feel just a little morally superior to my wife’s inescapable soda habit? I’ll just call it the ‘sweetener’ in my perfectly balanced, half-priced tea.

The “Pepper Incident” and Other Liquid Legacies

When I was growing up, my family was not known to waste much of anything. My kids realized long ago that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree on that one. We ate our “warmups” (leftovers), and one of the biggest tragedies of my youth was the infamous “Pepper Incident.” My mom had chopped up a batch of peppers and froze them alongside every loaf of bread and pack of buns in the freezer. Whether freezer bags just didn’t seal as well back then or it was a secret plot to get me to eat less carbs, the result was a catastrophe. For months, every hamburger or hot dog bun I touched had a distinct, inescapable “pepper vibe.” It ruined the protein and ensured I wouldn’t become a fan of peppers for decades. In fact, it got so bad I started opting for plain bread—which, in those days, my father bought in “old” bags at a substantial discount. If we didn’t freeze it immediately, that bread was destined to host its own thriving mold colony.

The Mystery at the Dinner Table

But I digress. My mother’s efficiency didn’t stop at peppers. She’d often drain the juice from canned fruits because the recipe didn’t require it. What do you do with a cup of random fruit juice sitting in the fridge? You pour it into the Kool-Aid container with whatever flavor was already there.

Dinner became a game of Russian Roulette for the taste buds. I wasn’t one to hold back. After the first sip, I’d ask, “What exactly did you mix up for us tonight?” My mother didn’t mean any harm; she was just being efficient. But those flavor potpourris made an impression—one that would eventually haunt my own children.

Upping the Ante: The Bus Stop Games

When my sons were in elementary school, they took a shuttle bus to a pickup location near our home. To show them I was thinking about them, I’d bring a snack and a drink. The snack was the easy part. The drink was where I “kicked it up a notch.”

The game was simple: “Guess What You Are Drinking?” At my disposal, I had various fruit juices, every Kool-Aid packet known to man, and a set of food coloring bottles. I’d create concoctions that looked like pond water (minus the floaties) but were guaranteed to be drinkable. This was before the pickle juice craze, so I kept it somewhat civil.

The heart of the game was “taste-budding out” the flavors dancing over their palates. I’d offer partial credit—when you’re mixing two types of Kool-Aid, a splash of pear juice, and blue food dye, you can’t exactly expect perfection. They participated because they knew I wasn’t required to bring a snack, and perhaps because of the unspoken rule: If you don’t drink today’s mystery, there might not be one tomorrow. (I never did mention that part to their mother.)

The “Fun Grandpa” Era

I’d like to say I made everything fun for them growing up, but I didn’t. Like anyone, I had my cranky days. But as I spend time with my granddaughter now—occasionally offering a capful of Gatorade as a “chaser” after her bottle of formula—I hope I lean heavier into the fun side of the ledger.

If you can’t be a perfect parent, make sure you mix in enough quirky and fun to help the natives forget the days you didn’t quite “nail it.”

The Grocery Store Socialite (or: Life Outside the Crib)

Yesterday, I lived the dream: a day where I wasn’t the primary grandparent. I wasn’t exactly “off the clock,” but I wasn’t fully “on” either. After attempting a morning hug from my grandchild—who is currently in a “what can I destroy next?” phase—I set out on my mission.

My goal was simple: complete the tasks that are nearly impossible when you’re tethered to a baby who demands naps in a stationary crib rather than a moving car seat. The list was short: test the hot tub water and grab a few groceries.

The Schedule vs. The Social

I had a tight window. The pool store didn’t open until 10:00, and I had to be back by 11:30 so “The Substitute” (Grandma) could get to the rec center to swim her laps.

I walked into the pool store feeling confident. I’d recently drained and refilled the tub, so I expected the chemicals to be perfectly in range. With my ego intact, I turned my attention to the attendant. She looked familiar, but the math wasn’t mathing.

“Did you color your hair recently?” I asked.
“Yes,” she replied, “I’m doing some revamping.”
“Aha,” I said, “You looked familiar, but it wasn’t quite fitting together. Good luck with the revamp!”

One interaction down. Quota started.

The Walmart Odyssey

Next stop: Walmart. My grocery list was a digital patchwork cobbled together over several days of “nap-rule” captivity. I wandered the aisles like a tourist, visiting the back, the front, then the middle, taking several unintentional detours along the way.

When it came time to check out, the self-checkout lanes were packed. I opted for an “old-fashioned” lane—the kind where a human being is responsible for knowing the produce codes so I don’t have to.

Since it’s March in Oklahoma, conversation naturally turned to the local religion: Tornado Season. We talked about how our weathermen are a bit… intense. They love to preempt every TV show to tell you, “If you are in the path, for gosh sakes, get in your safe place!”

The cashier weighed in with the classic Okie philosophy: “Don’t worry about the weather until you need to worry about the weather. The drama is for the ratings.”

The Technical Difficulty

Then came the payment. I use a Venmo debit card that has developed a stubborn personality. It refuses to function unless I physically bend the card and lean it into the sensor at a precise angle. It’s a ritual, not a transaction. On the second attempt, the sensor accepted my sacrifice, and I was cleared for exit.

The cashier had bagged my items with a very specific logic: if I had two of something, they shared a bag. Everything else got its own solo apartment. As I looked at the sea of plastic in my cart, I thought, Yep, that’s a lot of groceries.

I headed for the door, receipt held out like a peace offering for the “Klepto-Gestapo” greeters. The coast was clear. I sailed out.

The Parking Lot Pursuit

I was halfway across the asphalt, trying to remember which row I’d parked in, when I heard yelling behind me. I ignored it at first—until I was “assaulted” by a Walmart employee providing their “famous” parking lot delivery service. (Translation: If you leave half your stuff at the register and we catch you before you hit the main road, we might try to bring it to you.)

I sheepishly thanked him while he tried to catch his breath.

The Verdict

I know what you’re thinking: I need to do a better job of keeping track of my groceries. To do that, I’d have to stop having so many conversations. I’d have to stop asking about hair color or debating weather ratings.

But do I actually want that? Probably not.

I can live without the occasional bag of discounted garlic bread or the raspberries for my yogurt. But I can’t live without the connection. I’ll be back to “talking” to the baby shortly, and since she mostly just wants to destroy things, I had to get my talking quota out while I could.

The 25-Cent Dividend: A Hockey Billet Dad’s Survival Guide

I wrote this post a few months ago, but as time goes by, it feels almost like yesterday.

With the house filling up with hockey players—all three arrived yesterday—my life has officially relocated to the grocery store. My brain is currently a constant loop of logistical questions:

  • Do I have enough snacks for the kid with the tree nut allergy?
  • Does anyone here survive solely on chocolate milk?
  • Does tortellini count as a “high-performance fuel,” or are we strictly a spaghetti operation?

Between the uncertainty and the sheer volume of food required to fuel teenage athletes, I’ve hit Aldi, Sam’s, Winco, and Costco a combined five times this week. The frequency usually drops once the season gets going and I learn their eating patterns, but for now, I am a professional errand runner.

The Aldi Encounter

My first stop at Aldi this week offered a rare chance to be a decent human being. As I was walking out with my non-bagged groceries (I refuse to pay for bags—it’s the principle of the thing), I saw an older lady parked in a handicapped spot. She was visibly struggling to get out of her car; it was clear she needed something to bear her weight before she could even make it to the cart corral.

As I popped my trunk, I called out, “Just hold on! I’ll bring you my cart as soon as I get it unloaded.”

She looked at me, worried, and replied, “But I don’t have a quarter.”

(Ah, the Aldi quarter—the “annoying” way they force us to return our carts. I get that it saves them from paying someone to chase rogue carts in the parking lot, but I don’t have to like it.)

“Not a problem,” I told her. “Just give me a second to clear this out.”

I backed the cart toward her, handle-first. As she grabbed hold, she sighed, “It is terrible to get old.”

Knowing the truth in that, I just smiled and said, “I’m hoping my kids are there for me when I get there.”

The Payback

Zoom ahead to today.

I walked up to the store, quarter gripped in my hand and ready to claim my cart, only to find one already “checked out.” The previous shopper had left their quarter in the lock.

Now, I could have overanalyzed it, but I chose to take it as a sign. It felt like the carts had orchestrated a small tip for my “General Expenses” fund. I took that shiny coin as a little wink from above—as if God was saying, “I saw what you did the other day. You have your moments!”

If only I could get a few more of those moments… I have a feeling I’m going to need a lot more quarters to get through this hockey season.

The Two‑Tub Manifesto: Ice Cream Logistics & Ethics

In our house, ice cream isn’t dessert — it’s infrastructure, and I’m the one managing it. The kids and the hockey boys treat it like a competitive sport, my wife and I have slowed to a gentleman’s pace, and somehow I’ve ended up as the guy responsible for keeping everyone’s emotional stability frozen at 0°F.

We are a Blue Bell household. People can make their Braum’s arguments, and that’s fine — for road milkshakes. But if it’s living in my freezer, it’s the Little Creamery in Brenham or nothing. Standards matter.

The System

To keep the peace, we run a strict Two‑Active‑Tubs policy. Two flavors in play, two waiting in the wings, and no one gets to freelance. Active tubs must be mainstream — Cookie Dough, Cookies & Cream, the classics that won’t start a family meeting.

Introduce fruit, nuts, or a limited edition with a personality? The whole system collapses. Suddenly, we’re a four‑tub household. The boys are “just sampling.” I’m standing in front of the freezer like an overwhelmed air‑traffic controller.

We also aren’t above strategic bribery. Warm brownies are the standard lure for the “I’m not having dessert” crowd. But even we have lines: you don’t pair a brownie with Banana Pudding ice cream. That’s chaos disguised as whimsy.

The Hardware & The Heat

We’ve retired the traditional rounded scoop. Whether it’s Blue Bell’s density or our freezer’s commitment to cryogenics, the scoop just bends in protest. We are an Ice Cream Spade family now. I didn’t choose this identity; physics assigned it to me.

But even the spade has limits. A brand‑new, deep‑frozen half-gallon is basically a dairy glacier. Is it ethical to give the tub a three‑second microwave warm‑up just to break the surface tension? I’m not taking a position. I’m just saying philosophers have written entire books about less.

The Moral Dilemma

The real test of character happens at the sink. When you’re the only one getting a bowl, you face two paths:

  • The Saboteur – he assumes no one else wants any and drops the spade straight into the bottom of a dirty sink like a barbarian.
  • The Citizen – he rinses the spade with hot water and sets it in the dish rack for the next person, because we all have to live here.

Will I revoke ice cream privileges from the Saboteurs? No. But will I sigh loudly enough for them to hear from the living room? Absolutely. Better them than my wife.