Almost a year old and still no teeth. She’s not worried about it, and neither am I. Steak can wait.

What has changed is the noise. It used to be a reliable loop of da-da-da from morning until she crashed. Now she’s experimenting — new sounds, new combinations, little vocal detours I haven’t heard before. I started repeating them back to her. She either returns the exact sound or tweaks it slightly, like she’s filing a small correction on my pronunciation. The negotiation phase of our relationship has begun. Once the teeth show up, she’ll unlock version 2.0.

I haven’t personally witnessed the ten-step solo walk yet, but I’ve heard the reports. Credible sources. I’ve spent months extending my hand the moment she wants to stand, and apparently she doesn’t always need it anymore. I watch her parents stand a few feet away and wave her toward them like a tiny flight crew directing a plane to the gate. I understand the instinct. But grandparents don’t care about charts or percentiles — we don’t care about the milestones on someone else’s timeline. We care that the baby smiles and crawls toward us. That’s what recharges my battery. My job is to hold out the hand a little longer than is strictly necessary, and feel completely fine about it.

The toys lately are wood shapes and colored golf balls — not together by design, but they ended up together anyway because that’s how Ellie operates. Rings, stackable shapes, balls. And our coffee table, which has grooves along the side that are exactly the right size to wedge the wooden pieces into. I did not plan this. The coffee table did not consent. But Ellie spotted the opportunity immediately and has committed to filling those grooves every single visit, then yanking everything out with a satisfaction that’s hard to describe. I occasionally loosen a piece that’s too tight. Grandpa as silent co-conspirator. Works for both of us.

The Sleeping Grandpa Gambit

She still tries to rouse me when I’m pretending to sleep. I’ve gotten better at holding the bit longer — eyes shut, no reaction, even as I hear her crawling over to stage her intervention. She grabs a finger and pulls. I stay down. She reconsiders. Pulls harder. I’m not going to pretend I always win this one.

Naptimes are still neither of our favorites. Once she’s asleep, great. The part before that — where she looks at me like I’ve deeply betrayed her by placing her in the crib — I haven’t made peace with that yet. I’ve started the white noise a few minutes early, hold her with the blanket, wait for the signs. Drooping head. Eye rub. Sometimes she goes down without much protest. Other times she wakes up 40 minutes later standing in the crib at full volume, and I have to honestly ask: was she sleeping, or just considering her options quietly? Either way, I do my best and hope her mom arrives before the crankies fully set in.

Every day I babysit her, I want to give her a good experience. Her parents don’t tip, but Ellie’s smile more than covers it. When I have other things I’d like to be doing and she decides this is a perfect moment to inspect every room in the house or eat half an apple very slowly — I try to remember that most people don’t get this.

My patience isn’t perfect. It’s getting better. The sarcasm is not going anywhere, though. Judging by some of Ellie’s expressions lately, she’s already picking it up.